We often hear, “Surround yourself with the right people,” which is crucial. But how practical is this in today’s world, where lines between right and wrong are unfortunately blurred?
Many people cling to relationships, habits, or environments that harm their mental, emotional, or even physical well-being simply out of fear of being alone. When we are not grounded within ourselves, we instinctively look for something or someone to anchor us—even if that anchor drags us down, making it trickier to escape. Yet doing what is right for mental, physical, and emotional well-being must take precedence over fitting in.
-Since morality today is often seen as subjective, we must define our own fundamentals and stay rooted. When you judge wisely and compassionately, for example, how do they treat their parents? How do they speak to a waiter, etc? Judging people for the right reasons isn’t being judgmental; it’s discernment—a crucial tool to protect your energy and have healthy relationships.
Without boundaries, many friendships can backfire. Many people live unconsciously, driven by personal gain, materialism, or superficial validation. Recognizing this helps you stay grounded and avoid unnecessary hurt.
– When relationships feel transactional, where perks and benefits and a calculative behavior seem familiar, everyone wants to be treated with respect. People are becoming aware today that nobody wants to live on breadcrumbs.
In the pursuit of finding hope outside, if you look closer and deep enough, you can be the light for others.
Tools to find the right people
1) Learn to Say “No”
– It is a small word, yet one of the difficult ones to say—especially for the people-pleasers who have faced abandonment. But learning to say no is an act of self-respect.
You see the loop if the lessons aren’t learned, you can face instability. Saying no today saves you from regret tomorrow.
2) Draw Healthy Boundaries
– Too many boundaries deprive you from living this very life; fewer to zero boundaries will make you vulnerable. Balance is key.
Boundaries should not become walls; you need to protect your peace while staying open-minded. Sometimes you can have a chance to see visible transformations.
3) Aspire to Work on Yourself
– Continue striving to become your authentic self—mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. The more you evolve, you naturally connect with the right and great human beings.
Don’t lose hope in the process. Personal transformation is a tedious job; it takes patience and perseverance, but every effort counts in your development and for the well-being of society.
4) Work on Your Weaknesses
-True inner strength comes from truthfulness and integrity with yourself.
Work on your insecurities and vices like anger, laziness, jealousy, greed, pride, lust, or dishonesty.
Avoid complaint, blame, gossip, lying, hate, and resentment. If you inculcate journaling habits, it will become easy for you to manage and understand your thought patterns.
Practice forgiveness for your sake again; it doesn’t mean to live like before unless you see the visible transformative journey. But if someone shows improvement, you have to have the heart to forgive.
Conclusion –
I see many people don’t draw boundaries out of habit, thinking that’s how the world works—everyone is more or less similar, so what’s the big deal? But now you have tools like saying no, drawing healthy boundaries, and aspiring to work on yourself and improve your weaknesses; these efforts are worth doing.
You don’t find the right people—you become the right person first, and then you naturally attract the energy you embody. So, do not hesitate to accept your truth and the world’s.